All women (pending they have good fathers) are taught that they are a prize to be won, and that they shouldn’t just “give up the good stuff” for a man. We like to be treated well, wooed, all that good stuff. So what happens when a guy feels that you are not a prize to be won?
An ex boyfriend and I were talking about a week ago and he asked what I had been up to over the weekend. Joking around I said “oh the usual, meeting boys, making out.” Sure, it wasn’t the nicest thing that I could have said, but his response stung even deeper. He told me that if I will kiss a random guy on a Friday night then I am not a prize to be won. This from a guy who shattered my heart and isn’t worthy of even speaking to me again.
It’s interesting how age changes the way you respond in a situation like this. In my younger days I would have screamed at him and made a show of my emotion. Instead, I responded that I am a prize to be won and that I was going to hang up the phone and never speak to him again. He thought it was a joke, but I am quite serious. In the past week he has tried multiple times to get in contact (including leaving a present in my front door). My response is silence, because his actions are an oxymoron. If I am not a prize to be won, then why is he trying to hard to win me back?
Guys typically want what they can’t have, or, want to know they have as many options as ever…your ex, he is not into you…he is into you being into him
D8ergirl – you’re not just any prize – you get the blue ribbon!
This is so true. He was a jerk for saying that! You see he was jealous that he could not have you so like a boy he hurt you where he knew it would really sting. Where are all the men? So sad to see boys hurting woman like you.