During a single gals dating life, she needs some really fabulous friends by her side. Whether it is someone to call and gush to after a really good first date, or someone to complain to, single girls need each other. We especially need good friends who can see clearly when we can’t, or just plain refuse to.
Red flags are those glaring signals that something is wrong, which tend to come in the form of a pit in your stomach, or an uncomfortable feeling that you just can’t shake. And whether we like to admit it or not, most women are great at ignoring red flags for the sake of finding Mr. Right, or if not him, Mr. Right now. We can’t help it, the prospect of love can make us blind.
During my ten plus years of dating, I’ve come to realize that it’s best to acknowledge red flags from the beginning and move on. Although that is much easier said than done. I suggest to all single girls that you clearly define for yourself what you cannot compromise on and stick to it. For example, in an earlier post I wrote about opposites attracting, and at the time I truly believed that I could ignore the fact that the guy that I was dating did not believe in God. However, this should have been a GIGANTIC red flag because of where I am with my faith. Things didn’t work out with the guy, and a lot of it had to do with us having fights about religion. HELLO….RED FLAG!
Dating should be like a sport. You are on team “find a man” and the man is on team “find a woman” and you need a neutral party to throw a red flag when something is wrong with the game. So ladies, find yourself a good friend, make sure she has your best interest at heart and definitely listen when she pulls you aside and says “RED FLAG!”…it’s for your own good.
You are dead on with the flags … in all of my experiences, the red flags never go away – they come back and bite you in the a–!
Some things are just impossible to compromise on.